Traditional Quaker weddings are simple and heartfelt religious ceremonies in which couple’s pledge their commitment to each other in front of God and their closest friends and family members. Unlike other types of weddings, these unique rituals are inexpensive, intimate, don’t require a wedding officiant or ordained minister, and have long periods of silent meditation and prayer.
Small self-uniting weddings have always been a popular alternative to larger gatherings. As interest increases, many people have started calling all self-uniting ceremonies ‘Quaker weddings,’ even when they’re not performed in the Quaker religious tradition.
Virginia law requires an authorized, court-appointed officiant for legal marriage; self-uniting (Quaker) or completely non-officiated marriages are not legally recognized in the Commonwealth. While you can have an intimate, private commitment ceremony without an official, a separate legal ceremony with an officiant is required to formalize the marriage.
Many couples in Virginia choose to have a private, intimate ceremony (a “commitment ceremony” or vow exchange) in a scenic location (e.g., Shenandoah National Park) on one day, and a brief, separate, legal ceremony with an officiant to sign the license either before or after, ensuring they have the intimate experience they want while still adhering to state law.
Society of Friends has Virginia approved Quaker officiants for Quakers traditional wedding ceremonies anywhere in Virginia.
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/ February 14, 2026 
